A lot of outfit posts on style/fashion blogs are often preceded by an apology of the supposed frivolity of them and it always irks me a little. Putting together an outfit in which you truly feel good and express yourself can be a challenging task, especially when your identity doesn’t fit our current ideals and ideas. Though it might seem frivolous, the mere act of dressing the way you want can put you at risk of violence and harassment or just general feelings uncomfortableness, which demoralises a person not only in expressing oneself but also in going outside (hating the entire world is just a given). Someone who is openly queer gets harassed on an almost daily basis, even in my city, which is ‘open-minded and left-wing’, said to the heteronormative white hippy population. A fat body, too, adorned in, for instance, tight-fitted clothing, short skirts or whatever you choose is subversive to the idea that a fat person should eternally hide their body. (Let’s all weep for joy at the start of fatshion february, yay!) And again, among a lot of more subversive examples, a relatively normative body and identity like mine deserves visibility as well. All of this because we’re among the increasingly high glamour of big fashion blogs with model bodies and model identities, dressed up in outfits worth a house with their perfect smile in their perfect life, which we look at from afar and wish it were us with that perfect smile in that perfect life. But it never is, is it?
I don’t think this visibility challenges the person being visible and open and proud only either. It challenges every onlooker, every passerby, online and offline. It challenges our ideas about what fashion or style is supposed to be, about what our world is supposed to be, about who is supposed to be visible and who isn’t, it challenges our rigid ideas of beauty (and if beauty is supposed to be this thing we should strive for anyway?). This is important. The visibility of bodies and identities different from what we see all around us is not frivolous. This is what fashion blogging was supposed to be(come). Is it now?
I haven’t been posting regularly and I have shut down looking at other people’s blogs for a while, because I have been feeling miserable. I’ll change that soon. But this is what I wore yesterday, and this is what I will wear today, too, because I’m just lazy and repeat outfits all the time. And I am going to wear it to drink midday while hanging out with friends and being generally fabulous just because I feel like it.